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About Me

Who am I?

I’m Jordan, I’m 26, I’m a guy, and this is my personal blog.

That’s the simple answer. Assuming you want more than just that one sentence, well, I don’t really know of the best way to do it, so I’ll just hit a few things that I think anyone that knows me should know about.

I share a few characteristics and interests with lots of other guys around my age that you probably know (ESPN, sports in general, poker), but, as a hopeless romantic, I also part company with what seems to be a large majority of them on lots of things. I just don’t find much for me in a lot of what is typically classified as “guy stuff”. I’ve never drank or smoked anything, so I don’t have any interest in going to bars to “hang out with the guys”. I’m allergic to cigarette smoke, so I can’t stand even being inside most bars. I like romantic comedies (Love Actually is my favorite), I like TV shows that are usually thought of as mainly being aimed at women (Grey’s Anatomy, Friends, Sex And The City), and I’m a big fan of Twilight. I’m not claiming to have an explanation for that, but I think it has to do with emotions. I often find myself more interested in the feelings and emotions of girls than of other guys, and I’ve been told by girls that I’m usually pretty good at understanding where they’re coming from. I don’t like the kind of dating strategy that lots of guys employ, where their whole philosophy is focused around the physical relationship (just hooking up with whoever they can, wherever they can), and any sort of emotional relationship is just viewed as a bonus (or, according to some guys, the kiss of death). I’m the opposite of that – the emotional relationship, and being able to connect with one another, should be the foundation. While, generally speaking, there’s nothing wrong with casual dating, I like being involved in committed relationships and wish that more guys treated their significant others like princesses. For whatever reason, it seems that I’m good at defying gender stereotypes, but I like it that way. Most of the time, I would rather hang out with girls then other guys, anyway. That might read like a stereotypical “Yeah, I want to spend as much time as I can around as many hot girls as I can” response, but that’s really not what it’s meant as, and not what I want you to interpret it as. I like spending time with girls because I enjoy it. I oftentimes find it more fulfilling than spending time with guys, and I love being able to connect with them somehow. It’s much easier for me to be happy when I can see that I’m helping those around me be happy, and I find great joy in doing that.

Music is my heartbeat. I am infinitely thankful that I’m not one of those people who are just incapable, for whatever reason, of understanding that music of all genres can bless us. It’s absolutely impossible for me to not sometimes turn my steering wheel into a drumset, and I sing, loudly, usually without regard as to how many people see me making a fool of myself. “10,000 Miles” by Mary Chapin Carpenter is one of the most beautiful songs I’ve ever had the privilege of listening to, and I’ve listened to thousands. I would be completely and totally lost without my CD’s, probably to the point of me going crazy! I can appreciate just about any form or genre of music, to some degree or another. If you scope the Music page, you will find that many different styles are represented, in varying amounts. You will probably also see that aggressive music is quite prominent, as I love many different forms of metal and hardcore. But, rest assured, the stuff I like to listen to stretches way past that: electronica, golden age hip-hop, rap, jazz, post-rock, instrumental, pop-rock, singer-songwriter…..it’s all great. All of it. As far as favorite artists or groups are concerned, I don’t really have a defined list – it would really depend on the day you ask!

I am straight edge, and I am now to the point where I can’t imagine myself living any other way. For the unaware, being straight edge, at it’s core, means abstaining from all recreational drug use, alcohol and cigarettes included, and not having meaningless sex – that is to say, not “hooking up”. It’s a counter-culture that sprung up out of the East Coast hardcore punk music scene in the early 80’s. At a deeper, more philosophical level, it means something a bit different to everyone. To me, it’s about the concept of addiction. Not just to drugs, or to sex, but to anything. I like being able to wake up every day and not have the feeling of “needing” something to get me going, or get me to the end of the day, like millions of addicts do. I just think it would drive me crazy, and I’ve seen how much addiction can turn someone inside-out. However, before anyone starts thinking that I’m all about “holier-than-thou” propaganda, please know that I make a strong attempt to avoid that as much as possible. I am a devout supporter of personal liberties and of being free to make your own choices, for better or for worse, so I’m not the type of guy to just walk up to someone smoking, pull the cigarette out of their mouth, and start lecturing them on the evils of Big Tobacco. I know, from personal experience, that I don’t particularly appreciate people ostracizing me because of my beliefs, so I do my best to return the favor.

Politically, I don’t consider myself to sit completely under the umbrella of one party, or one label. I am, however, a huge supporter of as much freedom as is feasible in a 21st century society. Going off of that, I can’t stand pretty much any attempts to suppress our first amendment rights. An America whose citizens are ever afraid to speak their mind is an America in deep, deep trouble. I believe that, in all but the most extreme circumstances, parents are more to blame for crazy behavior by kids than any violent video game, movie, or rap lyric, and it’s not the government’s business to tell us what is and is not “ok”. As I alluded to a few sentences ago, I’ve never thought of or identified myself as a Republican or Democrat. I’ve realized that there are parts of truth in nearly all political viewpoints – what differentiates people is where, exactly, they come down on the specifics. For example, I like when conservatives talk about downsizing government and putting the ability to decide what is and is not best for you in the hands of the people themselves, not in the hands of the state. However, I don’t like when conservatives talk about interventionist foreign policy, or about how, to them, it somehow makes sense to have the government stay out of economic matters but interject itself into social issues like abortion and gay rights with one-size-fits-all federal mandates. I like when liberals talk about the importance of personal liberties, but I’m terrified of their confidence in the state and of their belief that Equality of Outcome is a better philosophy than Equality of Opportunity. I’m more of a Libertarian than anything else, really. I do still enjoy reading books, columns, op-ed pieces, blogs, etc. from all across the political spectrum, though.

Anyway, I could ramble on for quite a while, but I’m glad you stopped by! I like visitors, so feel free to drop me a line or leave a comment, and if you want to know anything else, just ask!

Comments»

1. Nondi - March 23, 2009

Ok you are my hero! Why can’t I find a guy like you? Sorry if I sound kinda creepy, but guys like you don’t exist. And I wish they did. Your right guys today are such losers, only interested in ‘hooking up with the chick thats got nice cans’ instead of basing a relationship on likes dislikes, personality, and emotion. So kudos to you for being open and honest. The girl you catch eyes with and fall in love with is going to be the luckiest person alive.

PS sorry for gushing.

2. Jordan - March 23, 2009

Hi Nondi! Wow – thanks so much for the kind words! I’m always pleased to know that something I have to say resonated with a reader, no matter how significant it may or may not be. I hope you’ll drop by again sometime! Do you have a blog?

3. Amanda - March 23, 2009

I think I love you. haha!

4. houstondivas - April 4, 2009

Truly, keep being fabulous and come visit Divas whenever you like. Such a pleasure to meet you!!

5. Frances - April 17, 2009

I love that you like Twilight! I have not met another guy who does. It’s awesome that you can look past what other guys consider “girly” and “gay” and really appreciate the story. You give me hope that maybe some guys out there still care about more than getting laid, that maybe they want to find a true connection.

6. jonettecullen - April 18, 2009

I just found your blog through 86 Rabbit’s and I have to tell you that I love it. Your posts on Twilight are so awesome (to the point where I was saying, “Yes!” out loud when you were describing why so many girls love the books. You totally get it!

Anyway, I just wanted to stop by and let you know you are awesome. πŸ™‚

7. Jordan - April 19, 2009

@ Jonette – Well thanks! Any blogger likes getting compliments, and I’m always flattered by them! 86 Rabbit’s site is great, and I’m glad you found me! Do you have a blog of your own that I can drop by sometime?

8. jonettecullen - April 19, 2009

Yep I sure do. It’s at http://twilog.wordpress.com/ . Look forward to seeing you there!

9. onlyeri - June 22, 2010

I’m intrigued by you, which doesn’t happen all too much. I will be returning here, often. I’m also following you on Twitter. I promise I’m not a stalker! :]

10. Rebecca - July 23, 2011

Your blog is very interesting and insightful! You’re really unique and that makes what you have to say all the more enjoyable to read. It really touches my heart with your sweet and loving nature that comes from your words. πŸ™‚ You sound like a really amazing person so don’t change ever! πŸ˜›


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